Sunday, September 23, 2012

Processing what happened - ongoing process at best


Processing “what just happened” takes a long time.
It is much like the adoption process – something I know about.  Don’t know about giving birth because I did not do that – just did the adoption route.
The beginning:  Our Bishop brought up the subject of going on a mission to us.  At first my thoughts were for my grandchildren.  My heart said, “NO!  I just want to spend the rest of my days playing with my grandchildren (I did not think of them ever growing up but staying little and wonderful to play with)”.  But he wisely let the suggestion sink in and a few weeks later we looked at each other and said, “Ok.  Let’s do this”,  we said that about adoption – OK let’s do this! But we had no idea what was in store.  The promise was, You can play with your grandchildren after the mission is over.  A Mission is the chance to serve the Lord Jesus Christ to the best of our ability on a full time basis – what a privilege.
The Papers:  Endless papers and then more papers, doctors’ visits, tests, decisions, and then more papers.  When we decided to adopt there were papers and more papers to fill out and endless questions about our attitudes etc.,  the papers for a mission are an effort for someone elsewhere to read and try to determine if we could last the course that we had now chosen to follow.  The adoption agency wanted to be sure that we could take care of a little one and raise it properly and more importantly could we provide for its needs etc. to maturity – but no one who starts out as a parent with homemade or store bought children is ever guaranteed that all or any of them will last the distance because life takes care of that aspect;  So we dutifully filled the papers out, the doctor had his clerk fill them out and all were sent in.
Waiting:  Waiting is not something I am good at and never have been.  My mother used to say that Patience is a virtue, possess it if you can, seldom found in women and never in a man.  We waited and worried about the application papers – would we be found adequate to the task ahead?  Would they take a chance on us doing what was asked?  Better yet, what is being asked for this mission?
Watching for the postman:  Ah yes, the federal government worker in the blue uniform who brings bills, magazines, advertisements, political papers and mission calls.  Many people were waiting anxiously for us to get the mission call in the mail and we were under strict instructions to call them as soon as the letter arrived so that they would also know what and where we would be.
SKYPE:  I am grateful for Skype.  It is a program on the internet that allows us to talk to our family and see them at the same time.  I can also see the progress in growth of my grandchildren so it will not be such a shock to see these ‘big’ kids when we get there.  Sara wanted us to open our mission call while Skype was running and so we did.  All her family was gathered and Bill and I at our respective computers and the letter was opened – You have been called to work in the New Hampshire, Manchester Mission!
What’s next?:  Well, the adoption agency had a series of interviews with us, set up parenting classes and required that we attend all of them and then when we were properly prepared (can you ever be prepared for parenting?), you get your baby.  Preparation for our assignment took the form of going to the Missionary Training Center in Provo and going through the process of learning about digital cameras and how to take the pictures.
The fun begins:  We embarked on child rearing with gusto.  We did the same on this mission – we approached it with gusto and my blog records what happened along the way.  Eventually the children left home and made lives for themselves.  We went through the duties set for us and now we have ‘left home’ and are going back to our home in Arizona.  As with children, who come with no operating manual, the operating manual we were given for the digital cameras were written in such technical language that we could not understand it and the problems of blurred images left us discouraged and wondering if we had taken the right course to begin with.  But we survived the children growing up and we have survived the digital cameras and all that went with a mission.
ALL WE HAVE TO DO NOW IS TO SIT BACK AND PROCESS WHAT HAPPENED AND DISTIL OUT OF IT THE LESSONS WE NEEDED TO LEARN.

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